Top 20 Things Not to Say on a Date (If You Want a Second One)

Let’s be real: dating is already a circus of nerves, expectations, and awkward silences. The last thing you need is to sabotage a potentially great connection by saying something that kills the vibe.

If you’ve ever left a date thinking, “Did I really just say that?” — you’re not alone. But don’t worry, we’ve got you covered.

Here are the top 20 things you should absolutely, definitely, for the love of all things sexy NOT say on a date:

1. “My ex used to love this place.”

🚩 Nobody wants to play second fiddle to a ghost. Leave your ex in the archives.

2. “How much money do you make?”

Unless you're trying to end the date early, don't treat it like a job interview with HR.

3. “I usually hate people, but you seem okay.”

Sarcasm? Maybe. Romantic? Not even close.

4. “I googled you.”

Creepy. Don’t admit it, even if you did a deep dive worthy of the CIA.

5. “I want kids within the next 18 months.”

Too much, too soon. Save the family planning talk for when there’s a real connection.

6. “I don’t believe in therapy.”

Major red flag. Emotional intelligence is hot. Dismissing mental health? Not so much.

7. “I still live with my parents, but it’s temporary… like, five years temporary.”

There’s nothing wrong with transitions, but context matters. Lead with growth, not excuses.

8. “You’re not really my type, but I figured I’d give this a shot.”

Translation: “I settled.” Don’t be that person.

9. “How many people have you slept with?”

Nope. Just... nope. WE DON'T SHARE THIS EVER!! Say it with me.

10. “You’re so much better looking than your photos!”

Even if you mean it as a compliment, it comes off like a backhanded slap to their face (and their filters).

11. “My last relationship ended because they didn’t understand me.”

Spare the sob story. First dates aren’t therapy sessions.

12. “Can we split the bill? I’m kinda broke right now.”

It’s okay to be honest about finances later. But date one? Be thoughtful, even if it’s a coffee date.

13. “I hate dating.”

Then why are you here?

14. “I’m not looking for anything serious… unless you’re perfect.”

Mixed signals = mixed results. Be clear, not confusing.

15. “Do you always wear this much makeup?”

This is not the compliment you think it is. Ever.

16. “I’m a very touchy feely person.”

Observe the rule of don't touch unless you feel the mutual vibe or the woman touches you first. Otherwise you come off as creepy. 

17. “My ex said I have commitment issues.”

They probably said that for a reason. No need to confirm it.

18. “I only date [insert race, body type, age].”

Hard pass. Preferences are one thing—fetishizing or being dismissive is another.

19. “You’re so different from other [insert stereotype].”

Don’t try to compliment someone while reinforcing a stereotype. Just... no.

20. “Wanna come back to my place?”

Timing is everything. If it’s mutual, it’ll flow naturally. If not, you just turned a maybe into a hard no.

Final Thoughts:

Dating is about connection, not interrogation or confession. The best thing you can do on a first date is show up as your best self, stay curious, and be respectful. Leave the red flags at home—and if your date is dropping a few of these lines? You just got your answer.

Got a dating disaster story of your own? Share it in the comments—misery loves company, and we love a good cringe.