The Worst Ways to Slide Into Someone’s DMs (Please Stop Doing These)
May 19, 2025Let’s set the record straight:
A DM can be the start of something spicy, sweet, or straight-up magical — if you do it right.
But far too often, people treat DMs like a digital junk drawer: chaotic, cringey, and full of things that should’ve been deleted before they were ever sent.
So if you're wondering why no one’s responding, or why you're getting left on read more than replied to... here's a reality check.
These are the WORST ways to slide into someone’s DMs:
1. “Hey.” That’s it. Just... hey.
Unless you’re a golden retriever, this opener is dead on arrival. Be better.
2. Copy-paste pickup lines
“Are you a parking ticket? ‘Cause you’ve got FINE written all over you.”
No. Just no. If it’s been on a meme page since 2012, retire it.
3. Sending 👀 with no context
What are you looking at? What do you want? Use your words, not your emojis.
4. The unsolicited selfie
Why are you sending a shirtless mirror pic at 11:42 AM on a Tuesday? Sir, go to work.
5. “U up?” at 2 AM
You’ve never spoken before. There’s no context. And you’re not even charming. Goodbye.
6. Oversharing your entire life story in message #1
“Hey, I’m recently divorced, going through a spiritual awakening, and I’m just trying to heal.”
Therapy is that way ➡️
7. Aggressive flirting right out the gate
“You’re so sexy, I bet you ruin lives.”
Calm down, Casanova. There are stages to this.
8. “You probably won’t respond but…”
...you’re right. I won’t. Self-pity is not a strategy.
9. Voice notes from strangers
Nothing sends a chill down the spine like a 47-second voice message that starts with heavy breathing.
10. Reacting to every story, but never starting a convo
This is emotional loitering. Do something or move along.
11. Sending “wyd” every day with no follow-up
If you don’t have an actual question, don’t ask one. Effort > boredom.
12. Trying to neg someone into liking you
“You’re cute for someone who wears glasses.”
What is this, 2004? Grow up.
13. Sending explicit pics without consent
Yes, this still happens. No, it’s not bold — it’s gross. Instant block.
14. Spamming messages when someone doesn’t reply
One message is fine. Two is persistent. Ten is a digital tantrum.
15. Acting entitled to someone’s time
“You posted a story but didn’t answer my DM.”
Correct. It’s not a customer service hotline.
The Bottom Line:
DMs can be magic — or they can be a dumpster fire. The difference? Intent, timing, and a little self-awareness. If you wouldn’t say it in real life, don’t send it online. And if you’re hoping to start a real conversation, remember: confidence is sexy, respect is required, and charm > chaos.
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